Choking during sex: fun, for some, but I’m not the one.


I know some people enjoy being choked during sex. Why? It’s said oxygen deprivation during orgasm heightens sensation. Some allow partners to close their airways by choking them using hands, forearms, etc….Any object that can penetrate the neck with enough pressure to close the trachea and not leave a mark will do. No one wants tell tale bruises the world can see. Possibly, people might draw the correct conclusion and think the choking was not only voluntary, but desired. People would likely look askance at the practice. I am not a convert but I don’t judge others for doing what I would avoid at all costs.

I am not interested in exploring this practice. I really like breathing. As a kid I once almost drowned and the experience left me a staunch fan of taking every breath. What you for is up to you, and consenting adults should have as much freedom as possible. No one had ever asked me, in words, but twice clients out both hands firmly around my neck without squeezing. In those vulnerable moments I was as optimistic as possible. To think the worst only invited terror. I assumed was being propositioned not threatened. To politely decline, I smoothly slipped my fingers between the hands and my neck. My vements were slow and almost casual while still being decisive. No need to upset anyone. Immediately, on both occasions, they released me. There were no further attempts to encircle my neck and the incident was not discussed. When it comes to oxygen deprivation you really have to be on the same page as your partner!

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