X-Hooker Life HACKS: New Sex Lessons from an Old Profession, #46

Schadenfreude: German word for pleasure derived from someone else’s misfortune. It is a common human condition, but a bad trait in a friend.

X-hooker Life Hack #46: Ladies, once you say no to a man’s sexual advances, the evening is over

When a guy asks for sex, and you say no, you think that is the end of that because you have set a boundary assertively. Relationship experts speak highly of the power of assertiveness. Right. Ladies, you are wrong, if you expect your word of denial to be respected by a horny male. Don’t even waste your time arguing your point. As long as you are in his company he will hound you relentlessly. Relentlessly. Hear me, now. Relentlessly, irritatingly, and finally, infuriatingly. Nagging, begging, manipulating. If you had been inclined to have sex with him, he ruins it. He sinks his own ship with words, or he’ll say “alright” and pout. Unwittingly he will begin to treat you like a child treats his mother by throwing a tantrum or sulking, an amusing irony if you ask me.

Ladies, If you have no plan to have sex with a man and you stand by your word, you are going to have to get away from him. Leave. If you do not, he takes your continuous presence as “Not yet” instead of “No.” And what’s more, he thinks you know it. He has no idea that you believe he should take anything you say seriously, especially if what you are saying is “no” to sex with him. That’s why he gets mad–he is sure you are intentionally teasing him, not asserting your status as an independent decision maker. I know you will feel like leaving is so drastic, I mean, aren’t you both adults? Be drastic, or be miserable, or give it up. Those are your choices once he propositions you.