Just BC She Was A Sex Worker Doesn’t Mean…Hooker Stereotype vs. Hooker Reality

One Assumption About Sex Workers is they have done it ALL. That’s sooo not true. There are things she is uncomfortable doing but is not opposed to, like any performance type gig such as web cam or stripping and then there’s the list of standards of acceptability developed after hearing requests over the years.

Everyone Has Sex Standards But Not Everyone Has had to Define them Bc You Don’t Know How You Feel Until The Situation Presents Itself. Sex Workers Have more presenting Situations.

Hooker Stereotype: she has or will do anything

Hooker Reality: she has a better grasp on her firm boundaries bc she has had to Define herself to maintain herself.

How does it feel regarding this group of people as people? I know it was weird for me finding out that groups I never thought of as, well, like me, were totally like me. It’s like I had to become everyone I judged to be cured of the burden of judging. What a relief!

3 responses to “Just BC She Was A Sex Worker Doesn’t Mean…Hooker Stereotype vs. Hooker Reality”

  1. “Sex workers” is not always a valid label. The vast majority, in the U.S. at least, of people having sex for money, not including pimped, really need the money. Mostly for drugs, but also frequently for one more night off the street, or even for babyfood. Out of maybe 200 I’ve been with over a 40-year career, only a small number considered themselves to be “sex workers” and they were the most well-adjusted, honest, cleanest and mentally healthy women of them all. There were some geniuses, some learning disabled, some women who just wanted to be loved. The number who had been beaten or threatened with death or psychologically tortured was not small, but fewer than you might expect. Bordello prostitutes I know nothing about.


    • It’s interesting that the acceptability of an act determines if people identify themselves by the action. Football playing is not full time, every day of the year but people call themselves football players. People who lie are offended to be called liars. People who steal object to the word thief (“I only steal from stores not real people,” they insist). I use the term sex worker not bc that’s all a person is, to the exclusion of all else but as an experiment in honesty. Seeing how it feels. After all, I still consider myself a cross country runner and it’s been 30 years. Can I get honest enough to admit something when no one but me knows? You’d be surprised how difficult it can be when no one is watching


  2. I have to agree. Sex workers are people too. As such they are subject to the same unique views as we all have. I still find a SW now and then who will have no part of my not uncommon fetish. I always thought of it as easier to deal with than what the average customer wants but every once in a while I get definitively denied and that’s ok. I try and discuss it before anything starts.


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