Many guys are silently heartbroken after a Hooker’s betrayal but there is one weird reason it is not their fault

Guys, were you ever hurt when a hooker you had grown attached to turned on you? There is one reason you may be 100% blameless

There is a lot of stealing in Hawaii. Shoplifters are “boosters” who “go to work” in stores, “boosting.” Some women accompanied men to “burg” houses, or burglarize homes. Interestingly, they don’t call themselves burglars. Women “bang” cars, but the word banger is not In use. The title booster is as close as these people come to admitting they steal but they are like liars who take offense at being called a liar. They steal, but “not from people, only from stores.” Because they have to.

Let me be clear about my addiction theory. Yes addiction distorts thought construction to cause people to make decisions out of earnestly held faulty beliefs. (Like the person suffering from schizophrenia who pulls out the tooth he believes the dentist used to implant a camera that is recording his thoughts). I have yet to met an addict who was pleased to be compared to people with that mental illness bc the stigma is so strong, but I stand by my Impaired Thought Construction Theory. Thieves know what they are doing is wrong or would be considered wrong by people who do not understand that the rules do not apply to them. It is vitally important that they see themselves as true friends and honorable people. They are not what they do, in their self-evaluation.

There is one reason you make enemies and you are 100% blameless.

We are taught that we are responsible for how people treat us. Mostly, but not always. Thieves lie to themselves about not stealing from “people” especially friends. In truth thieves steal from anyone. In order to remain good people after they betray a friend the only thing to be done is transform the betrayal into a well deserved lesson or punishment. The other person had it coming. He should be grateful that’s all I took!

I would never betray a friend but f*** that person. That’s no friend!

Typical addict impaired thinking that preserves a self image that is incongruent with actions. The addicts solution to cognitive dissonance is to other people’s lives discordant!

Guys, if you’ve ever wondered why a working girl you were really good to and actually came to like, stole from you and totally turned on you, that’s why. I know you tell yourself you should not even care. She is nobody! But you can’t help but be, secretly, really hurt. You tried not to think of her as a friend, tried to tell yourself it was not her you were looking forward to seeing, but the adventure. But you knew the truth about the bond forming. Or so you thought bc you’re devastated when she robs you or sets you up to be jumped. Do not personalize. If you’re dealing with a working girl she is likely on drugs (but not always!). If she turns on you out of the blue she might be mentally preparing herself to steal from you. It is a good idea to not let on that you are leaving her presence with money in your pocket. Temptation could creep in. Now, it is always possible that she is not addicted to drugs or addicted to theft (yes, that’s a thing) and she is actually in a different desperate situation. In this case, it could be kind of cruel to let her see you have more money but you’re not giving it to her.

For the most part when a thief steals from you she really believe you brought it on yourself. Do not try to reason with her if you catch her. If she is caught and not sorry, she will go on the offensive with face -saving anger. And do not listen to her attacks on your character. Yes, she will use the apparent truth to justify herself. But I read in a book that if something is not spoken in love it is not really true. Personally I believe in second chances if the person makes up for her mistake in a measurable way. Perfection is an unrealistic expectation.. However, without a tangible amends, taking the person back is like saying you don’t mind.

“Rip Off Reports” are supposed to help guys protect each other but they are used as weapons to lie about providers guys want to damage. That totally sucks!–That’s the caption I used months ago when dealing with the reverse issue of guys turning on providers by calling them thieves on online adult sites.

You are an innocent victim only if you’re truly innocent. This advice applies to the truly blameless who are worth more as targets than companions.